I did not want them
to worry about lunch, so I told them I was
taking care of lunch. They decided on a restaurant around the corner that
served good home cooked meals. Elizabeth
and I got several to go boxes, and we had a nice lunch.
I knew they would
be getting a lot of food so I talked to Elizabeth and told her I would clean out
the fridge. If anything was past the
expiration date, I threw it out. There
were several items that I did not know how old they were and Elizabeth would
tell me whether or not to throw them out.
I was later told when I get to Heaven, Uncle Jim would get on to me
about throwing out perfectly good food (the ones that he would have thought
were still good even though they had expired.)
As Aunt June was
cleaning up, she was walking towards the closet with his jacket. I took it from her and hung it up. It was weird hanging up the coat he probably
wore the day before. I thought to look
in the pockets to see if there was anything in them. I found a receipt and handed it to her. I can’t remember exactly what it was, but it
seemed like he was going to take the receipt and get something a store did not
have in stock. Maybe it was a rain
check. She put the receipt up and said
she would get it for him.
I asked if there
was anything else I could do. Elizabeth
asked me if I would vacuum the house, so I did.
I wanted to help as much as possible but did not want to be in their
way. I felt they needed time to grieve
and be by themselves too. That is a hard
issue to figure out.
I noticed the day
before that her back deck was covered in leaves. So, the next day I came over,
I got the blower, blew off the deck, and straightened everything. I was just trying to think of things I could
do to help.
2 comments:
One of the things my mother-in-law privately asked me to do was speak to a few funeral directors about the price of service we could get with limited resources for my father-in-law. She had mentioned this to her children months before but all of her kids was in denial. Two weeks before he died I spoke with 4 funeral directors before I found the one who would show my father-in-law before he was cremated. He had 2 life insurance policies but one was a term life and worth nothing.
After he died my mother-in-law had to only finalize a couple small details. I helped my mother-in-law with the insurance policies and filing for survivor benefits. We bought groceries or whatever she needed.
It's the small things that everyone did that mattered to her.
Thank you for your thoughts. I did not even think it would be a problem viewing a loved one before they were cremated. Wonder what the issue would be?
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