Last week Jamie,
Kaitlin, and Juliette came to my house for the week because the girls had
gymnastic camp at the University of Georgia.
I remembered Brennan would have been five years old on June 17th. I did not know what to do or say because
Jamie would be at my house on his birthday.
I did not want her to think I did not know what that date meant, but I
also did not want to upset her either. I
called Jennifer and asked her what I should do.
She suggested I not say anything unless she seemed upset. Paul told me he would not say anything
either. So, I let the day pass without
saying anything.
After she left, I
debated or whether to call her or not and ask her what she would have liked me
to do. I knew you and I would gain
valuable information if I did call her.
I prayed before I called her because again I did not want to say the
wrong thing. It took me forever to ask
her what I wanted to because I was starting to get upset, and I did not want
her to cry. This was not an easy topic
to talk about.
I told her I knew it was
Brennan’s birthday, but I did not know whether to say or do anything. I asked her if I remembered Brennan’s
birthday again, would she want me to say anything. She said I could acknowledge it was his
birthday, but she would not want to go in an in-depth conversation about
it. She said they (she and Chris)
mention it and talk about it as being his birthday, but they don’t do anything. She also said she did not expect me to
call. Again the words to the song “Say”
ring true to me.
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What should be said or done if you are with
someone on the anniversary of their loved one’s death, especially a child? U
I also spoke to Evelyn
and Cookie (Evelyn’s half-sister) about this topic. They both basically said I don’t need to let
the day go by unnoticed. Cookie told me
on the anniversary of her husband’s death, three friends call her. One friend calls and says, “This is the day
for me to call you.” Another friend
calls and says, “I was just thinking about you today.” While another friend calls and says, “We need
to go eat one night this week.” They
don’t really say anything else concerning it being the anniversary of his
death.
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